Posts Tagged ‘friends’

Class Reunions

Sunday, July 11th, 2010

classReunionIt’s hard to believe that we’re almost in mid-July! Where does the time go??? Trying to make connections with family and friends might be one of the reasons why summer flies by so quickly. There’s graduation celebrations, family reunions, weddings, class reunions, etc.

Class reunions. I’m sorry to admit it, but I’ve only attended one class reunion so far. I live in the town that I grew up in, stay in touch with friends, and honestly have had little interest in going to the class reunions. However, one my friends, Marie, recently attended hers and we talked about it.

Marie noticed that a lot of the “locals” didn’t attend. Yet, others made an effort to be there. Two people traveled by air, one person by train and the rest by personal vehicle. The out-of-towners were disappointed that the locals wouldn’t attend when all they had to do was show up–not travel for hours.

Marie and her classmates had fun looking through the old yearbooks. Little by little, because of existing friendships, they were able to note where most of their classmates are currently living, if they’re married, their jobs, etc. Out of a class of 150 people, nine have already passed away. Another nine or ten are seriously ill. That’s a wake up call!

There were easily twenty people whom no one had any information on. The postcards that were sent out regarding the class reunion were returned with “forwarding address unknown”. Marie said that she and her classmates were going to make a serious effort to find these twenty people and to see how they’re doing.

Marie asked how “I Still Remember You” works and I showed her the website. Hopefully in the near future she’ll begin posting searches. Wouldn’t it be awesome if she’s able to connect with a few of these missing classmates?

How about you? Who are you trying to connect with this summer? Is it a missing classmate from a class reunion? An acquaintance you’ve met at a wedding reception? A relative you’ve not seen in awhile? Let “I Still Remember You” help you with your search and make that connection.

Listen to your heart…

A Hoarder In Training?

Sunday, March 28th, 2010

messy deskA new show began a couple of weeks ago here in the United States…The Secret Life of a Hoarder. The viewers get to see the inside of a home that is literally filled with stuff from the floor to the ceiling, with barely enough space to maneuver from room to room. As I watched a few minutes of the first show I looked around me. In my living room scattered on the couch and loveseat are the past 20 or so issues of our local newspaper. Most of the papers are still in their plastic wrappers! I keep thinking I’ll get around to reading them, but instead, I keep adding to the piles.

Today, I decided to clean off my desk. I’m tired of shuffling through papers to find things. Besides, I’m headed to H&R Block this Tuesday and need to have my paperwork gathered for that wonderful adventure! I came across some Christmas cards and thought I’d better check through them before tossing them out. I’m now $75 richer! And in case you’re wondering, I did write thank you notes for the money. I know myself well, and I write thank yous immediately! Otherwise, they wouldn’t get written until, well, until I unbury my desk like today!

As I read a personal note in one of the cards, I realized it’s been awhile since I’ve seen the person. Sharon helped me keep my sanity while we were working on our masters. When I would get stressed, Sharon brought out the bubbles and the slinkies. We would be silly for a few minutes and then return to our work. In her note, Sharon mentioned that she likes her new location and I’m welcome to come visit anytime. Only thing is, I didn’t keep the envelope which has her new location. So after I finish finding my desktop, I’m going to do a search for Sharon on our “I Still Remember You” site.

So, any other “hoarders in training” out there? Unlike a true hoarder, I WANT to get rid of stuff, I WANT to be clutter-free…I can’t help it that I have the “toss it in a pile” genetic gene from BOTH of my parents. I refuse to think that I’m doomed to be a clutterer all of life, but as I look around, YIKES!

One Word, One Glance, One Memory

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

It’s exciting to see new members join our “I Still Remember You” site! We have members from all around the world.

Have you posted a “contact” yet? It’s easy to do. After you log in, click on the “My Account”. Then click on “Contact Search”. Type in as much information as you can regarding the person you’re searching for. The two key things that you need to be able to provide is a special day and a specific location. Once you complete the contact, it’s posted on the chrono-geographical search tool. If your contact actually took place on a moving vehicle (i.e. plane, bus) then an icon of the vehicle will appear on the search tool.

Recently I’ve read over some of the posted contacts. Some people are looking for lost relatives, some are looking for childhood friends, others are looking for recent contacts.

Who are you interested in reconnecting with? Someone you met at a party? The person you sat next to on a flight? An old classmate? A person you attended a conference with?

How about posting a contact this week? It might be the best thing you’ve done in awhile.

Listen to your heart…

That’s What Friends Are For

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010

As I was thinking about what to blog on, my current situation keeps coming to mind. For the past three weeks I’ve been dealing with some interesting back problems. The worse part is it causes pain in my right leg which makes driving a very unpleasant experience. I’ve been to the chiropractor three times and he believes we’re making progress.

I don’t know about you, but I find it difficult to ask others for help. I find it easy to help others and get upset with family members and friends when they won’t ask for help, but yet…I don’t like asking. This past week I was headed to another state to see family. I had to swallow my pride and ask a friend if she possibly could go with me, and if she wouldn’t mind driving. Of course, she was more than willing to go and do the driving.

At the hotel room, noticing I was in pain putting on my shoes, my niece offered to help me out. By the second day, her year and a half old daughter was handing my shoes to her mother to help me with! We had a good laugh.

This week I’m housebound by doctor’s orders. After eating popcorn for supper, waffles for lunch and overly ripe bananas, when a friend called asking if I needed anything from the grocery store, I hesitated. My mind was screaming “YES! There’s no food in the house”, but my pride was telling me to remain quiet. Picking up on my silence, my friend said, “Let me rephrase that. I’m headed to the grocery store. What was it that you wanted me to pick up?” We both had a good laugh and I’m thrilled that I’ll have real food for tonight’s dinner! I can now toss out the milk that I’m pretty sure has gone sour!

Another friend who knows I don’t like being stuck at home, sends me cute little emails or Facebook comments to keep me encouraged.

We all need close friends in our lives. Not because they’ll pitch in and help us out, but because they allow us to put our guard down, our pride aside, and just be real with each other. One of my guy friends loves to show up at my house every couple of months to ask me what needs to be done. He knows if he asks in advance, I’ll tell him “nothing”, but he knows as a single woman there are things I need help with.

As the lyrics of “That’s What Friends Are For” says…
“Keep smilin’, keep shinin’
Knowin’ you can always count on me, for sure
That’s what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I’ll be on your side forever more
That’s what friends are for”

Yeah, I’m thankful for friends.

Game Night

Friday, February 12th, 2010

boardgame3To welcome in the new year, my friends and I decided to play games for 12 hours straight! We started at 6:30 PM on New Year’s Eve and ended the following morning at 6:30 AM with breakfast. You have to understand that we LOVE playing games! If we were to add all of our games together, we probably have close to 200 games! Games of all sorts…card games, board games, kids’ games, you name it, we probably have it! One of my friends typed up the names of the games that he had on strips of paper and placed them in a jar. The winner of the first game then drew for the next game, and so on. We made it a rule that we had to play a game for at least a half hour before moving on to another game.

The first couple of games were ones that we recently played and like a lot — Royal Rummy, Five Crowns and Things. Then someone drew a budget game from the 1960’s! At first we cringed at the thought of opening the box. It was a game that none of us had played before. Bob’s mother picked it up at a garage sale. As we began to set up the game, we were amused by the cards and the tokens. Thinking that we would definitely quit after a half hour, we actually completed the game.

Some of the games the younger kids were able to join us. It’s always fun to see how fast their emotions change. They’re giddy when they’re winning, and they’re fighting back tears when they’re losing. Yet, they really enjoy playing games and like to play with the adults.

We tried out a brand new game called “Kings Go Free”. It actually is three different games, using the same deck of specialized cards. It was a lot of fun and provided us with a lot of laughter. If you’re looking for a new card game, I highly recommend checking out www.KingsGoFree.com or find it on Ebay.

One of the things that I enjoy about playing games is the opportunity to get caught up on each other’s lives. We talk about our families, our jobs and other things. We’re constantly laughing or yelping. It doesn’t really matter if we win or lose a game.

If you haven’t played any games in awhile, I really encourage you to get a group of friends together or your family and have a game night. Who knows, it might become a weekly or monthly event!

Listen to your heart…

February ~ The Month of Romance

Friday, February 5th, 2010

hearttEvery February, in various parts of the world, cards, candy, flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. On February 14th, for those of us in the States, Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia, it will be St. Valentine’s Day–a day to say “I Love You”. According to the Greeting Card Association, over one billion valentine cards are purchased each year. Approximately 85% of the cards are purchased by women.

Although traditions vary, it’s a day celebrated by people of all ages. For the little kids, usually a party is held at school. Kids bring in valentines (cards) for their classmates. The valentines are typically store bought cards, but sometimes they are handmade. The party usually includes heart-shaped cookies, cupcakes and candy, red punch and a game or two.

When children reach middle school age (11-14 years old), valentines are typically given to close friends. Sometimes a school dance is held in honor of the special day. For the high school students, Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to let your peers know that someone loves you. Throughout the day, flowers and balloon bouquets are delivered from loved ones. Some schools even do singing telegrams as fundraisers! A class gets interrupted, the receiver’s name is loudly announced and a love song is sung in front of the entire class.

Valentine’s Day is also celebrated by adults. Couples exchange cards, sometimes gifts, and at the very least an “I love you”. Many couples go out for dinner and the restaurants offer valentine specials. For those of us who are single, Valentine’s Day gets mixed reviews. Some of us go along with the day and give cards to our friends. Others are neutral and some despise the day.

Even though I personally find the day to be somewhat silly, I do appreciate that it encourages people to care about others and to let them know they are loved. So, Happy Valentine’s Day, no matter where you live!

If you live in a different country, what are some of your holidays???

Whisper “I Love You” Day

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010

ILoveYouToday, is Whisper “I Love You” Day. I did a quick search on Google and there are sites that actually sell e-cards in honor of today! If you don’t tend to let family and friends verbally know that you love them, why not give it a go today? When you shock them with those three little words uttering from your mouth, you can also add a disclaimer, “Just trying to honor the day!”

But in all seriousness, why are we hesitant in letting people know that we love them? Why does it cause such an awkwardness? Perhaps you come from a family that freely says, “I love you” and hugs a lot. For some of the rest of us, “I love you” tended to be a form of good-bye when someone was headed off to the service, to college, etc. Within my circle of friends, we sometimes sign our cards “Love ya”, but rarely speak the words. When the words are spoken, it’s usually during a crisis or at a wedding.

Over the past few months, I have been trying to make more of an effort to let family and close friends verbally know that I love them. The usual response is “I love you too” or the person makes some sort of joke. Once in awhile someone will say that they really needed to know that someone loved them and cared.

If you’re like me and not used to saying “I Love You” a lot, how about challenging yourself? At least once a week, let someone know you love them. It might make a big difference in their day!

Listen to your heart…

A Friend Like Lil

Tuesday, January 12th, 2010

Friends. Like a lot of people, my friends range from little kids to older folks. Certain friends I can totally relax with, while other friends I sometimes have to be careful of what I say or what I do. My friends enrich my life in so many ways, and I can only hope that I have touched their lives as well.

Lil, is a special friend of mine. Born with Down’s Syndrome, Lil hasn’t always had it easy in life. She’s aware of people who are friendly toward her and who steer clear of her. I love being around Lil! Lil’s usual greeting is, “Behave Barb! You’re my best friend.” Now keep in mind, she tells lots of people to behave and several people that they are her best friend. But if I’m having a lousy day, I love hearing Lil tell me I’m her best friend!

Lil thinks I’m funny. I’ll tell a joke and she’ll laugh. I’ll make a funny face and she’ll giggle. She never puts me down or gets mad at me. Lil is a very caring person. If she sees that her mother is getting tired, she’ll ask her to sit down. If someone’s glass is empty, she’ll fill it with water.

Lil loves to work on word search puzzles, draw pictures, watch DVDs and listen to music. When a fast song plays, Lil gets up and dance. She sort of enters her own world and loves to move around freely. She’s a constant reminder to me to not take life so seriously and to take time to have fun, to be silly.

Do you have a Lil in your life? Is there a friend who is very different from you who brings out the good in you? I encourage you this year to make a friend with someone who has special needs. You’ll be a better person for it.

Listen to your heart…

CHILDHOOD FRIENDS

Friday, January 8th, 2010

friends-885Childhood friends…friends from the neighborhood, friends from school, friends from clubs such as Girl Scouts, friends from youth group…etc. Recently I was sorting through some old photos and came across a few pics of my friend Genene. Genene was my next door neighbor and we had the privilege of being neighbors since birth through high school!

Although Genene was three years younger than me, we usually got along just great. We had fun playing games together, cooling off in her wading pool, playing cops and robbers with the other neighborhood kids, and walking to school together. We even took turns having crushes on the boys on our street! One thing that we especially liked was when our parents would let us have sleepovers!

We would either camp out in the back of my dad’s station wagon or in her dad’s shed. I know that that sounds silly now, but back then, it was a treat! We “packed” for these sleepovers — scary books, munchies, flashlights, pillows and sleeping bags. We would either spend most of the nights spooking each other with the scary stuff or giggling over shared secrets. One time when Genene was reading a really really scary story, we thought we heard a noise. The windows were rolled down halfway. Genene stopped reading so we could listen better. We heard the noise again and suddenly the station wagon began to rock!!! Thinking it had to be a monster or a great big bear, we began to scream and scream! Then we realized it was my dad just having fun with us!

One thing that Genene and I did disagree on was playing Barbies. I enjoyed Barbies for awhile, but at the time I outgrew them, Genene insisted on playing with them! I remember spending hours pretending to be Barbie, Skipper or Ken. Eventually, she outgrew them as well. Whew!

I still live in the house that I grew up in. I went away to college and returned to the area to teach. Long story short…both parents have passed away and the house is mine. Genene’s parents still live next door. So anytime Genene comes home, we try to spend a little time together. She’s married now and has two children who get a kick out of our childhood days.

So even though we’re both grown up, we stay in contact. We “see” each other on Facebook almost every day. We send emails and cards from time to time and sometimes she comments on blogs from this site. I’ve been out to visit her family once. When there is a crisis in her family or mine, we’re there for each other. I couldn’t pick a better childhood friend!

How about you? What was one of your childhood friends like? Are you still in touch with that person? If you aren’t, how about considering doing a search for him/her on this site? Get reconnected and see what happens.

Listen to your heart…

Happy New Year!

Thursday, December 31st, 2009

new yearThe people you love…
The places you’re a part of…
The experiences that make you smile…
The blessings that shower you…
The memories you hold onto…

A new year is a reminder to celebrate all the things that are good in your world….
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!


Listen to your heart…