As I was thinking about what to blog on, my current situation keeps coming to mind. For the past three weeks I’ve been dealing with some interesting back problems. The worse part is it causes pain in my right leg which makes driving a very unpleasant experience. I’ve been to the chiropractor three times and he believes we’re making progress.
I don’t know about you, but I find it difficult to ask others for help. I find it easy to help others and get upset with family members and friends when they won’t ask for help, but yet…I don’t like asking. This past week I was headed to another state to see family. I had to swallow my pride and ask a friend if she possibly could go with me, and if she wouldn’t mind driving. Of course, she was more than willing to go and do the driving.
At the hotel room, noticing I was in pain putting on my shoes, my niece offered to help me out. By the second day, her year and a half old daughter was handing my shoes to her mother to help me with! We had a good laugh.
This week I’m housebound by doctor’s orders. After eating popcorn for supper, waffles for lunch and overly ripe bananas, when a friend called asking if I needed anything from the grocery store, I hesitated. My mind was screaming “YES! There’s no food in the house”, but my pride was telling me to remain quiet. Picking up on my silence, my friend said, “Let me rephrase that. I’m headed to the grocery store. What was it that you wanted me to pick up?” We both had a good laugh and I’m thrilled that I’ll have real food for tonight’s dinner! I can now toss out the milk that I’m pretty sure has gone sour!
Another friend who knows I don’t like being stuck at home, sends me cute little emails or Facebook comments to keep me encouraged.
We all need close friends in our lives. Not because they’ll pitch in and help us out, but because they allow us to put our guard down, our pride aside, and just be real with each other. One of my guy friends loves to show up at my house every couple of months to ask me what needs to be done. He knows if he asks in advance, I’ll tell him “nothing”, but he knows as a single woman there are things I need help with.
As the lyrics of “That’s What Friends Are For” says…
“Keep smilin’, keep shinin’
Knowin’ you can always count on me, for sure
That’s what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I’ll be on your side forever more
That’s what friends are for”
Yeah, I’m thankful for friends.
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Whisper “I Love You” Day
Tuesday, January 19th, 2010
Today, is Whisper “I Love You” Day. I did a quick search on Google and there are sites that actually sell e-cards in honor of today! If you don’t tend to let family and friends verbally know that you love them, why not give it a go today? When you shock them with those three little words uttering from your mouth, you can also add a disclaimer, “Just trying to honor the day!”
But in all seriousness, why are we hesitant in letting people know that we love them? Why does it cause such an awkwardness? Perhaps you come from a family that freely says, “I love you” and hugs a lot. For some of the rest of us, “I love you” tended to be a form of good-bye when someone was headed off to the service, to college, etc. Within my circle of friends, we sometimes sign our cards “Love ya”, but rarely speak the words. When the words are spoken, it’s usually during a crisis or at a wedding.
Over the past few months, I have been trying to make more of an effort to let family and close friends verbally know that I love them. The usual response is “I love you too” or the person makes some sort of joke. Once in awhile someone will say that they really needed to know that someone loved them and cared.
If you’re like me and not used to saying “I Love You” a lot, how about challenging yourself? At least once a week, let someone know you love them. It might make a big difference in their day!
Listen to your heart…
