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Not All My Best Friends Are People

Tuesday, December 15th, 2009

 

Friends Forever

Friends Forever

 

 

 

I am not really an animal lover. That is not to say that I don’t like animals, just that there is only one type I truly love and that is dogs. As I sit here writing this with one of my dogs curled up on each of my feet keeping my toes warm I am struck by the fact that humans and dogs are the very best of matches. I want to share a story I once heard with you.

A man and his dog were transported to the after life at the same time and when they arrived things were very confusing, understandably. Very few people get a practice run at the after life. The man and his dog found themselves at the top of a long, winding, seemly endless road. The sun was bright in the sky and there were plenty of good smells in the air. It was a perfect day for a walk so the man and his dog set off down the road to see what they could find. 

After awhile they came to a gate. behind the gate was a man in flowing, pristine white robes. Beyond the gate the man could see a lovely shaded area with a cool inviting lake. He looked at the gate keeper and said “May we enter, the day is awfully warm and my dog and I could do with a cool drink and maybe a swim in that lovely lake of yours”. The man in white beamed a huge smile and said ” You, of course, are welcome. But I afraid there are no dogs allowed in Heaven” The man with the dog was surprised to hear that this was Heaven but he was down right shocked to find out that heaven did not allow dogs. He said to the gate keeper, ” This dog has been my life long friend, he has stuck by me through thick and thin. He even died trying to save me. I will go nowhere he is not allowed.” . The gatekeeper shook his head sadly. “You are condemning yourself to a very sad eternity my friend,” he said, “nowhere in heaven accepts dogs. You will be wandering this long, hot road forever”. But the man stubbornly refused to be parted from his dog and moved off down the road.

After sometime the man and his dog came across another gate, with a kindly looking old man standing next to it. Before the man with the dog could speak the gate was thrown open and a voice that belied the gatekeeper’s small statue bellowed ” Both of you are welcome to Heaven”. The man with the dog exclaimed in surprise ”This is Heaven? The gatekeeper down the road said his place was, and it did not allow dogs”. The old man let out a chuckle “It is a very effective system we have going here. You were first greeted by the devil and told a pack of lies. I don’t mind that he gets to go first because frankly anyone who would abandon a life long friend on dusty, hot road for the promise of comforts deserves to spend the rest of eternity in the company of the devil”

The man and the dog entered Heaven together, just as it should be.

Socrates and The Test Of Gossip

Monday, December 14th, 2009

socrates

 

Most of you will have heard about the great and wise man who was Socrates of Ancient Greece. Thinking about what I was going to say to day I was saddened by the thought that so many good friendships are ruined by idle gossip. A lot of people think that you are only guitly of gossiping if they are actually doing the talking. In his own wise way though Socrates showed people this was not true and his attitude to gossip about a friend is represented in this story.

 

One day a man approached Socrates and begged an audience with him, as he had something vital to tell him. Socrates asked the man what the thing of vital importance was about and the man replied “your friend”. Socrates contemplated this answer a moment and then said to the visitor. “ I may allow you to tell me this thing but first I need you to answer some questions. The man agreed so Socrates posed his first question “ Are you certain that the thing you are about to tell me about my friend is true.” The visitor thought about it and shook his head and said “I cannot be certain as it is something I over heard”.

 

Socrates took in the answer and said, “I may still allow you to tell me but first two more questions. Is the thing you are about to tell me about my friend something that casts them in a good light?” The vistor shook his head vigourously this time and said “On the contrary”. 

 

Socrates had just one more question for the visitor “ Is the information you are about to give me something that is useful?”. The man’s reply was “ No not really”. Socrates held the visitors eye and said to him “I am not interested in what you have to say. Why would I want to listen to you tell me something that is neither true, good or useful about someone I consider a friend?

 

I think we can all learn a lot from Socrates. It is not just the uttering of hurtful gossip that is wrong. Even listening to it can seem like an act of betrayal. If someone is talking to you about a friend of yours you could do worse that to pass what they are saying through the triple filter test that Socrates outlined in order to decide if you want to listen to any more. 

 

Walking away from gossip that does not pass this test is an act of true friendship.

An Unusal Way To Find Royalty

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

The lengths some people will go to to contact an old friend.

The lengths some people will go to to contact an old friend.

Most of us are trawling the usual channels to find our old friends. Some people, however, come up with some very inventive methods. I guess it depends who you are searching for.

An old friend of Camilla Parker Bowles, now wife of Prince Charles made sure that she reconnected with her old mate. The now Duchess of Cornwall was faced with this blast from her teenage past as she did a walkaround in Victoria, British Columbia on her present tour of Canadia.

The enterprising former friend of the Duchess held a sign that said ” Camillia, Lottie here. Remember Mon Fertile 1963-64.” The sign referred to a time in Camilla’s past when she attended a Swiss finishing school with the lady holding the sign, Ms Charlotte Ericson.

Ms Ericson remembers those school days well and recalls that

“We were just typical crazy teenage girls, into the Beatles, hair, make-up and clothes.We would stay up late talking about the boys we fancied and eating Swiss chocolate and giggling.There were a lot of girls there and she would spend most of her time with the British girls, but we got to know each other.”

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Camillia grew up in Sussex and was educated in an exclusive British school for the early years of her life before heading off to this particular Swiss finishing school and then another one in France. The finishing school placed a lot of emphasise on learning sewing, typing and etiquette according to Ms Ericson who is quite sure that these skills have held Camilla in good stead for her present role as the Duchess.

Ms Ericson was thrilled to catch up with her old friends and stated that she would be getting on the phone to other former school friends of Camilla’s to tell them she has spoken to her.

Camilla held up her walkabout to stand and chat with her old friend, proving that no matter how famous you may be we are all partial to a bit of nostalgia from time to time.

This was an extraordinary length for Ms Lottie Ericson to go to to find an old friend but she certainly seemed to think it was worth it. Most of us will not have to do anything nearly as public to make contact with whoever we are searching for. Which is probably just as well as I know I, for one would not have the stomach for doing something like that.

But just because our lost friends are less famous does not mean our searches are any less important. I am loving reading all the comments that people are leaving and am so keen to hear more about how all your searches are progressing.